Children at Weddings

The wedding is the formal beginning of a new family. Incorporating your children into the wedding sends a very powerful message to them about how important they are to the wedding and to the family. Of course the ages and the personalities of the children will dictate their roles and level of participation. Younger children – between the ages of 3 and 7 – generally fare best as flower girls and ring bearers. Older, more mature children can fill the role of Maid of Honour, Best Man, bridesmaid, junior bridesmaid, usher – there is no rule and you can be as creative as you like in creating a role.

Here are a few ways that children can be incorporated into your wedding in addition to the traditional roles. They can:

  • greet guests
  • hand out wedding programs
  • ask guests to sign the guest book
  • hand out flowers to guests
  • help guests find their seats
  • lead the procession
  • walk you down the aisle
  • carry the bride’s train
  • stand up with you
  • receive a special gift during the ceremony
  • speak during the ceremony – a special poem or thought
  • participate in a candle lighting ceremony
  • take candid photographs
  • play a musical instrument or solo
  • present wedding favours to the guests

Take the lead from your children and allow them to participate to the level that affords them the most comfort and the most pleasure. Great beginnings create a smooth road to happy endings.

Children at Weddings