Let’s face it; wedding vows don’t speak to the hearts of many couples getting married. Traditional vows are almost clinical in nature. Once you’ve been to a few weddings I’m sure that you can recite them by heart. This has led many couples to decide to write their own vows instead. Do you want to write your own vows but are unsure where to start? Here are a few guidelines for writing your own wedding vows:
- Discuss this with your partner and make sure that you are both on the same page, so to speak. Will you each write your own vows, or write vows together for both of you to recite?
- Contact your Officiant and make sure he/she will accept personalized vows. You may need to recite the traditional vows in addition to your own and your Officiant may want to review your vows in advance.
- Don’t say things that are highly personal or potentially embarrassing. Reserve those kinds of comments to be said in privacy.
- Consider how you met, what first attracted you to your future spouse, the thing that you love most about him/her most, unique things about your relationship, shared special memories, what marriage means to you …
- If there is a famous quotation or a stanza of a poem that is meaningful to you, include it.
- Be sincere: speak from the heart.
- Give yourself permission to be funny. Your vows don’t have to be somber.
- Practice reading your vows out load.